Adult Bedroom Relaxation

The alarm clock rings but Amanda feels as though she just fell asleep. Groggily she climbs out of bed and questions; why do I feel drained?  Sound familiar?

Sleep is needed to regenerate certain parts of the body, especially the brain, so that it may continue to function optimally.  Studies have revealed that by not getting enough rest we have a shorter attention span that leads to problems in concentration in school or at work.  According to the National Sleep Foundation our need for sleep changes with age while the average is 7-9 hours.  The bedroom is considered the most important room in the house for relaxation, regeneration, and romance in our lives. Oh la la……

So how do we create a sanctuary within a bedroom plus meet other needs?  The bed position should be diagonally opposite the door, have a solid wall behind the head, enough room on either side of the bed for a small table, and raised off the floor for air circulation underneath.  Yes, this means removing all those items that only you know about under the bed.  Having the foot of the bed in the direct line of the bedroom door is known as the “mortuary position” in China because coffins are placed in that position when awaiting collection.  Shape, color, and material of a bed can influence the energetic impact for those that sleep in the bed. Therefore, beds should be made of natural materials that can breathe, such as wood or bamboo. Keep metal beds away from electrical equipment and heaters because they conduct heat and electricity.  If you have outlets positioned behind the headboard cut out cork to place between the outlet cover and the electric box.  This will help absorb the strong electric current that is emitted from the outlets.

Electronics, electric outlets, and lights emit strong electromagnetic fields (EMF’s) that artificially stimulate the body. These man made EMF’s oscillate through the body at 50 hertz per second. Eliminating EMF’s in the bedroom would be the highest ranking on my list for a peaceful night’s rest.  Possibly you feel you cannot do without the TV in your bedroom but know that there are adjustments you can make to keep the TV.  If you do have a CD or MP3 player in the room, only play sleep inducing music but place on a timer to turn off the electric.  All electrical items should be on the opposite side of the room.  Apply EMF protectors on electronics, especially in a bedroom where relaxation is of high priority.  Sleeping under a ceiling fan can be debilitating to the energy field that surrounds your body.   Living in Florida and being comfortable while sleeping makes it tough not having a ceiling fan but there are adjustments that can be made. I recommend hanging a 30 mm round faceted crystal from the pull cord of your ceiling fan.  Also, consider a battery powered alarm clock that simulates the sun.

If you do not have a view of the bedroom door while in bed you can keep yourself in what’s called the “Command Position” with proper mirror placement.  Mirrors in the bedroom should not face a bed.  But what if your partner likes the mirror for a spicy relationship?  Here are a few suggestions: if you do have a mirror facing your bed and are unable or don’t want to eliminate the mirror then cover with a folding screen or fabric panel during sleep, install decorative wallpaper over the mirror, or tint the mirror with opaque artwork. Mirrors can reflect light that disrupts the normal circadian rhythm in the body; therefore your room should be dark.  If this is not possible: install a room darkening blind, sleep with a lavender scented eye mask, or install thick curtains.  A mirror that faces an east-facing window would benefit those that need to rise early.

Clutter in the bedroom can make it difficult to rest and relax. This includes the clutter under your bed.  What do you see upon waking up? Clothing scattered on the floor, laundry, computer, dirty dishes, exercise bike, guns, etc.  These items are constant reminders of mundane tasks while some items place you in a state of being on guard from danger. Typically your bedroom furniture should not take up more than half of the room’s space.  Fabrics recommended for bedroom: Cotton, Silk, Satin, Chenille, Birch, and Bamboo. Fabrics add texture to the room and to the senses, as such pay particular attention to what you are trying to achieve in the bedroom with your selections.  Silk sheets are very seductive while cotton sheets are absorbent so be sure to change cotton sheets after an argument.  Wear comfortable clothing that is loose and made from natural materials.

Eastern light is considered the best lighting for a bedroom but if you do not have an eastern facing window then you can use diffused, soft lighting to compliment your skin and assist in relaxing the body.   Color also plays a key role in providing a relaxing environment.  Warm and cool tones can be used in the bedroom but if the cool tone casts a gray or blue tint on your skin this will not invite intimacy.  Peach is a volatile color that initiates change in the body and should only be used if you are ready for a shift in your relationship.

People sleep better in a room with a cooler temperature.  Sleep experts say that the ideal room temperature is 69 to 75 degrees F.  The sense of smell is the most powerful of senses and can send the most vivid messages to your brain.  Lavender is the scent used for relaxation and to prepare oneself for sleep.  Lavender slows the body down by reducing your heart rate, blood pressure, and relaxes the muscles.  Prepare your room 30 minutes before bed with a comfortable room temperature, a glass of water, relaxing music, reading material or journal, lavender spray, and/or diffuser filled with lavender oil.  Pulse Point Balm is another essential I always have on hand.  You can apply these pocket sized balms to your pulse points whenever you need to relax, energize, or reduce stress.

Everyone is entitled to some time for themselves so keep the cell phone charging by the front door, watch TV or use the computer in another room, and use the bedroom for rest, rejuvenation, and intimacy.  Try this for one week and take notice of your sleep patterns.

Want to learn more about items to look for in the bedroom for relationship? “Relationships – Struggle vs Support” 

Purchase the mp3 “Intro to Feng Shui” where the bedroom is discussed as one of the key three elements of a space.

Kandi Phillips

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