How To Attract What You Want

The first step to attract what you want and working with the Law Of Attraction is to change or shift your energy.  Everything in this world is made up of energy including us.

Other people pick up on your energy. If it’s positive you’ll attract positive people into your life. If you have negative energy, you’ll always attract negative people and negative situations into your life.

If you find that you are getting exactly what you don’t want or if you find that you are not getting what you want then there’s a very good chance that you’re simply sending out the wrong energy.  In the end you’ll attract what corresponds to your energy. Negative energy attracts negative situations.

Positive energy attracts positive situations. It’s really that simple.  So if you’re not getting what you want – you’re likely sending out the wrong energy. Change your energy – and you’ll likely start getting what you want.

Just what is your energy? Your energy is based on your thoughts and beliefs. Your subconscious mind picks up on your thoughts and beliefs and goes out and creates situations that correspond to your thoughts and beliefs.  Other people pick up your energy on a subconscious level. They’re not consciously aware of your energy but they just develop a feeling about you based on your energy.  If you have negative energy you’ll attract negative people and negative situations.  At the same time you’ll repel positive people and positive situations. This is not a good combination if you want to create a positive and successful life.

This is how the Law Of Attraction works – it’s tied to the beliefs that your subconscious simply follows – attracting the people, situations and opportunities that mirror your beliefs.  If you constantly think of the worst, if you find that you are negative, if you don’t believe that you can ever achieve anything, if you don’t believe that anybody can be good, if you constantly complain, if you always see the worst in situations, if you regularly put others down, if you’re just a negative person you will develop negative energy and in the end you’ll only attract more negative situations into your life.

In the end – your negative energy makes your life miserable and it becomes to achieve your goals and create the changes that you want. At the same time you repel positive people and positive situations.  So by being negative or by developing negative energy things will continue to get worse. Being negative is really a no win situation and you should do everything that you can to stop being negative and eliminate any negative energy that you have.  So what do you do?  How do you turn things around?

Change the way you see things and begin eliminating the negative thoughts and negative beliefs. This will help change your energy so that you begin attracting what you want. This means that you focus on positive situations, understand that things will work out, look for solutions instead of complaining, be more understanding instead of getting angry, try to look at things from a different perspective, embrace changes and look for opportunities instead of focusing on the problems and no longer believing that the worst will happen.

As you continually change the way you think and see things you’ll begin to naturally attract more positive situations into your life. You may have heard it before: you are what you attract. And if you are not getting what you want out of life it’s time to change the way you think and act, then only will you be able to change your energy and attract better, positive situations into your life while creating and attracting what you want.

During the day observe how you respond to situations, see how you react to things you don’t like, or just to situations in general.  Pay attention to the comments you make to friends, colleagues and relatives.  Are they positive or negative?  Do you always point out the negative? Do you complain or think of the worst? If something goes wrong do you get angry, blame somebody, or have a series of negative thoughts?  Or do you focus on a solution, accept responsibility and create the changes that you want?

If you find that you have a negative reaction then you’re only creating more negative energy and attracting more negative situations. Start changing how you think. Create positive thoughts and positive beliefs. Focus on finding solutions and you’ll begin attracting more positive situations into your life.

Get started today – visit: Take Positive Action Besides just changing your thoughts and beliefs you also need to change your actions and how you respond to situations. Even the most subtle negative behavior and negative responses can create negative situations in your life.  This happens because they add up and after a while you habitually have negative responses and respond in a negative way to situations.  Before you know it you’re taking negative actions and getting negative results. And that’s not what you want.

Instead, take steps to be nice and you’ll attract nice or positive situations.  For example: If you find out that a colleague gets a promotion and you get upset, angry, or resentful then you’re really creating more negative energy and will continue to attract situations that will keep making you angry.  What you’re really saying is that you don’t like promotions; at least that’s the energy that you’re sending out. Now remember on a subconscious level other people will pick up on your energy including your bosses.  If they feel that you don’t like promotions and don’t have a positive attitude toward promotions why would they give you one?  But if you were to wish the person who got the promotion luck and support them then you would attract something similar.  You would be creating positive energy that would attract more positive situations.

If you come across somebody who is wealthy and you have a negative reaction others will pick up on this. They will be less likely to help you become wealthy because you’re sending out the message that you don’t like wealth or wealthy people so why should they help you? Now if you were to embrace somebody who was wealthy, applaud them for their success, and praise them for their accomplishment then you will create positive energy and in the end they will pick up on the energy that says you think having wealth is a good thing and others would be more willing to help you create wealth.  You cannot attract that which you are not. You only attract what you are.  If you are not kind, thoughtful, understanding, supportive and encouraging you simply won’t attract great people with those qualities into your life.

Make it a daily habit to look for the positive qualities in people that you interact with.  If you have a boss that you feel is difficult then look for and focus on his or her positive qualities. By doing this you’ll begin to change the energy between the two of you and you might find that after a while things begin to improve.  Begin changing the way you see things.  Start being the kind of person you want others to be. Take time to be nice and look for positive situations in people and in all situations.  Your subconscious mind will then begin to attract all that you want in life and more.  There is one catch to all this: you have to practice this with all your heart.  That means you have to be serious about it and you have to intend your goodwill and kindness. You can’t just be nicer, and more positive just to attract better situations in life.

If you practice what I just suggested and don’t have serious intentions you’ll only attract people who are the same they’ll end up manipulating you and taking advantage of you in the same way.  This is not something to take lightly.  Studies have shown that those who are more positive, kinder and more considerate stand a better chance of achieving their goals and are more likely to live fulfilling lives.  Stop being negative.  Take positive actions.  Search for solutions.  Look at things differently.  Search for the good in people that you interact with.  Take time to be complimentary and positive.  When you do all of the above you get your subconscious mind working for you. You change your energy level and your subconscious begins to create more positive situations. Stay negative and you get negative situations.

It’s time for a new approach and you will begin to see dramatic improvements if you follow the simple steps I just outlined. If you want even more powerful results then start working with Creating Power today. You can apply these techniques for any and every area of your life.  If you want to attract the right person think of the qualities that person would have and start displaying similar qualities. Be the kind of person you want in your life.  Start shifting your energy and you will begin attracting what you want and you’ll eliminate all those negative situations in your life.

Kandi Phillips

Powder Coating Products

Our patio furniture was starting to peel so whenever you would sit in one of the chairs you would feel the need to help the peeling paint along.  Kind of like having peeling skin after that dreaded sunburn that you just can’t help but peel away.

The patio furniture was purchased five years ago and was cast aluminum with a faux patina finish so we figured it would last forever.  Well that may be true from some however we live in Florida about 4 miles from the ocean so we receive the salt air and in turn this is very corrosive on everything.  If I only knew then what I know now, it would have lasted even longer.  So I’m sharing this information to save many of you the time and effort when purchasing new patio furniture.

I began my venture of getting a quote for what’s called, Restoration of Patio Furniture being one to use what I already have to benefit the environment by not throwing it out.  Well needless to say I had sticker shock when I received the quote, as it was triple the cost of what we originally paid for the furniture.  Granted we did save quite a bit for the initial cost as it was during the end of summer patio sales plus we had the main ingredient, which was the cast aluminum furniture.

See the process we were getting a quote for was what is called, Powdered Coating which is a much more durable product and lasts longer.  This sounded pretty good but when I asked what type of guarantee they gave it was only a year.  Now keep in mind that they quoted us a price of $2100 with a one-year guarantee.  Hum, we spent $800 and it lasted 5 years does this really sound like such a great deal?

Then I started researching the Powdered Coating process and it seems I was really on to something that does benefit the environment.  Did you know that there is a powder coating movement?  Read on to find out more……

Powdered Advantages
Why all the hubbub about powder coating? There are many advantages to the powder coating process versus traditional paint. The industry claims that powder is more durable than paint, cost less than paint and lasts at least as long as paint.

“Powder coated surfaces are more resistant to chipping, scratching, fading, and wearing than other finishes,” says Jeff Palmer, spokesperson for the Powder Coating Institute. “Color selection is virtually unlimited with high and low gloss, metallic, and clear finishes available. And colors stay bright and vibrant longer. Texture selections range from smooth surfaces to a wrinkled or matte finish, and rough textures designed for hiding surface imperfections.”

Powder coating is also environmentally friendly. While liquid finishes contain solvents that have pollutants known as volatile organic compounds (VOCs), powder coating contains no solvents and releases negligible amounts, if any, of VOCs into the atmosphere. That eliminates the need for costly pollution control equipment.

In fact, one of the major catalysts for growth in the powder coating industry has been the implementation of stringent air pollution control legislation over the past three decades. Finishers who use powder coating can comply more easily with U.S. Environmental Protection Agency regulations.

“Powder coating is a lot easier to clean up than paint. With paint you have liquid paint sludge to dispose of,” Palmer says. “Much of the over spray powder that doesn’t stick to the part can be recycled and reused. It’s those factors that have really helped the powder coating industry take off.”

With no VOCs, the air used to exhaust the powder spray booth can be re-circulated directly into the plant, eliminating the cost of heating or cooling the make-up air. Palmer says energy is also saved with the curing ovens. Solvent-based coatings must heat and exhaust huge volumes of air to ensure that the solvent fumes do not reach a potentially explosive level, but the exhaust requirements in powder coating ovens are lower. “Powder coating is more efficient because it requires no drying and more parts can be coated automatically,” Palmer says. “Powder coating does not run, drip, or sag, and this results in significantly lower reject rates.”

So with this newly found research in hand, off I went to look for patio furniture at our local retailers and oh what did I find.  That many manufacturers are moving to this process, which is making it more available for us budget conscious individuals.  I did however find that Lowes and Home Depot carried the biggest selection of Powered Coated patio furniture.  Even the sales people did not realize the difference between painted versus powder coating so we had some great conversations with them.  I bet they will be blowing out their selection of powered coated selections just with their newfound knowledge. So did we get new patio furniture, you bet plus we took advantage of the 50% off Labor Day sale.  Now what about that older set, well my father being retired wants to put a little more life into the old patio set.  When I asked what he was going to do, he just said wait and see.  Oh how I’ve heard these words from him before but loves refurbishing items plus it gives him time outside, which he truly loves at heart.

Kandi Phillips

Green Tips for Your Office

Even if you’ve never practiced green living before, putting a few conservation tips into practice could be the start of your steady participation in helping to save the Earth. Here are some conservation tips for your office that you can incorporate into your daily routine:

  • Don’t print: Before you hit print, ask yourself if you can cut and paste the information into a document that you can store in a computer file, or simply write it down the old-fashioned way. You’d be amazed at how much paper and ink (plus the energy required of your printer) you can save by just pausing for a few seconds to determine just how badly you need another piece of paper (or two or three). And if you must print, don’t forget to print on both sides if you can. It might take a few mishaps to know exactly how to reload the paper into the feeder, but the amount of paper you’ll save in the end will be well worth it.
  • Recycle: Think of the money you and your company can save by recycling paper. And you don’t have to wait until it comes back to you in the form of a ream of paper to help the environment. Any sheet of paper that does not contain proprietary information can be turned into scraps that can be used for notes or memos. Also, use chlorine-free paper that contains a higher percentage of post-consumer recycled materials.
  • Quiet the photocopier: Instead of leaving the photocopier on all day, keep it on during a specified time, maybe three hours during which you and your colleagues can copy what you need. With some scheduling and a little fine-tuning, this practice could become a regular way of conducting business.
  • Conduct a light bulb exchange: Switch out your old standard light bulbs with ENERGY STAR–rated bulbs. ENERGY STAR is a joint program of the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency and the U.S. Department of Energy that helps protect the environment through energy-efficient products and practices. These bulbs use at least two-thirds less energy than regular bulbs.
  • Buy used furniture: Before buying any new office furniture, investigate buying quality used furniture, which is much cheaper and keeps another desk or chair out of the landfill.

B.Y.O.P.: Bring your own plates and cutlery to work. Throw in a few cloth napkins, too, if you can. Paper plates, paper napkins, and plastic forks, spoons, and knives have been a mainstay in the office for a long time, so it might be difficult at first to make the switch. Reusable dishes and cutlery can significantly cut down on paper waste and pollution.

Kandi Phillips

From Trash to Treasure

We are so busy getting from one appointment to the next working as a mom or in corporate America.  It’s hard enough to keep up with the day-to-day schedules that are already stretched.  But suddenly we find our closets and garages busting with things that we have accumulated over time.  It would be easy to just pile everything in a big Uhaul and head for the local landfill.  Just the thought of this makes me cringe and think of how others may benefit from the items.  Or maybe there are some personal items that I may throw out without knowing unless I sift through them.

It was a bonding day with my daughter shopping for new clothes.  She always loves these types of days as she gets a few things while the big love for mom is some one on one time without all the distractions.  Plus to see her thought process of thriftiness feels my heart with joy.  As I arrive home I find that there is barely any room in the walk in closet nor are there any additional hangers.  Hum, I guess the universe is telling me that it’s time to clear out the clutter!  So as I start thumbing through all those clothes I find that I have not worn some for over a year and others, well just don’t fit any longer.  This is how I relate to my clients, which helps them to understand that just because I clear the clutter for others does not mean I don’t have clutter myself that needs clearing.

So off I went to our local resale store and thrift shop with bags of clothing.  I now receive the great satisfaction of others benefiting from the items as well as receiving a tax deduction for our tax return.  Yippee!

Kandi Phillips

How Healthy Is My Home?

What you see in a person’s physical surroundings is an extension of one’s life.  The shapes, colors, textures, number arrangement, and arrangement of furniture has a direct affect on our overall mental and emotional state.  This is a hard realization for most of us; however, with a few simple techniques, we can overcome the same habits that slow us down and affect our well-being.

Holding onto or gathering things has become a very common habit for all of us.  We find ourselves becoming prisoners within our own homes by objects that we have been programmed to hold on to, just in case someone else may need it. Unfortunately, by holding on to such objects this can cause deep psychological and emotional roots.  Broken items that have been stored with the possibility of one day fixing them can be a direct reflection of energy within our own life.   All of this is considered clutter that can drag us down and prevent us from moving forward to face new challenges.  Clutter has become an addiction in our society.

What does this have to do with our furniture?  Your furniture, cabinets, closets, and garages are holding areas for these objects that shift your energy level into a lower state.  The pathways that you have developed around your furniture may not be increasing your own energy field.  The energy field around your body is called your “aura” or “chi”.  We are constantly reconstructing our energy field without even being aware of it.  Take for example, when you walk into a room with very high ceilings for the first time, you automatically look up, this is your energy field or chi that is grounding itself.  Also, sitting directly in front of a flat mirror while working is uncomfortable because a flat mirror pushes energy outward.  When we come home or enter work each day and there are stacks of papers, sharp corners, wrong colors, or wrong shapes, our energy levels automatically decrease.

Our bodies are very wondrous in that they are in a constant state of repair from what our surroundings may be.  However, over time, our bodies do not repair as easily; this causes stress, pain, growths, and aging.  Yes, we all age, but living each day as a new beginning and surrounding ourselves with clutter free, functional environments that are in our higher good, will bring us more joy and energy.

Even a small start is a beginning, and sometimes changes in smaller doses help us to realize that we can let go of those items that are no longer giving us a feeling of higher energy.  Here are a few tips that can get you started today:

  • Clutter is determined in five seconds or less.
  • You can determine whether or not an item gives you more energy.
  • Don’t make your determination with your head but rather your heart and gut. This is called your intuition.
  • Ask yourself the question, “Does this object raise or lower my energy”?
    1. If you feel good or smile about it then it can stay.
    2. If you feel sad or broken then remove it.

We all want to remember past events and love to hold onto such objects that bring us to this past event.  Or we want to pass them on to our family members so that they may possibly have the same feeling.  If you do feel this way, then pass on the objects now.  If they do want to accept the piece, then you can watch them enjoy it just as you have.  However, don’t be hurt if they do not want to accept the item.  They may not feel the same way as you do about a piece.  This presents an opportunity of donating the item while giving you a tax deduction as well.

Maybe you need someone to help you through the process of creating a functional space that will enable you to live and work in a peaceful, non-chaotic environment.  There are simple techniques that can be put into place that is tailored to each individual or family.  This will provide structure, solutions, and systems to increase productivity and reduce overall stress.

Kandi Phillips is a certified Decorator, Organizer, and Feng Shui consultant.

Kandi Phillips

Being a Mom

We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions
that she and her husband are thinking of “starting a family.”
“We’re taking a survey,” she says half-joking. “Do you think I should
have a baby?”

“It will change your life,” I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.
“I know,” she says, “no more sleeping in on weekends, no more
spontaneous vacations.”

But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter,
Trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will
Never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the
physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable.

I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper
without asking, “What if that had been MY child?” That every plane crash,
every house fire will haunt her. That when she sees pictures of starving
children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching
your child hurt.

I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think
that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. That an urgent call of
“Mom!” will cause her to drop a soufflé or her best crystal without a
moment’s hesitation. I feel that I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her baby’s sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her baby is all right.

I want my daughter to know that every day decisions will no
Longer be routine. That a five year old boy’s desire to go to the
men’s room rather than the women’s at McDonald’s will become a major
dilemma. That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming
children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that someone or something harmful may be lurking in that restroom. However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother.

Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that
eventually she will shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself. That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give herself up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years, not to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs.

I want her to know that a cesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will
become badges of honor. My daughter’s relationship with her husband will
change, but not in the way she thinks. I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child. I think she should know that she
will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very
unromantic. I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel
with other women who are mothers.

I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your
child learn to ride a bike. I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a
baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or cat for the first time. I
want her to taste the joy that is so real it actually hurts.

My daughter’s quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed
in my eyes.

“You’ll never regret it,” I finally say. Then I reached across the
table, squeezed my daughter’s hand and offered a silent prayer for her, and for me, and for all the mere mortal women who stumble their way into
this most wonderful of callings…Motherhood.

Please share this with a Mom that you know or all of your girlfriends
who may someday be Moms. May you always have in your arms the one
who is in your heart.

Kandi Phillips

Thanksgiving and The Environment

What does Thanksgiving mean? According to Wikipedia, “Families and friends gather for a reunion, a day of thanks, and a festive meal”.  However, one day of thanks is not meant to be the true spirit of our inner souls.  We should be thankful everyday for something even as small as the smell of fresh coffee brewing in the morning or the children laughing and having fun.

We get so caught up with our daily schedules that we really don’t take the time to be thankful each day or even throughout the day.  It’s no wonder with so many readily available comfort features such as the remote control, telephone, heating & air, or my favorite, a massage chair.  But am I truly thankful when I use the massage chair? I recall complaining about how it does not reach a particular spot on my back instead of how I should be thankful to have a massage chair.  This is what we all tend to do, we take many things for granted, much like the time we lost power for weeks due to past hurricanes.  Boy, were we thankful when it came back on and we could take warm showers again.

Thanksgiving is truly a wonderful day that our entire nation can take advantage of with everyone giving thanks on the same day.  It’s also a day that we can take advantage of our planet and future.  Imagine the impact this would have on our environment with so much positive energy in one day.  I recently attended a Green Conference and was quite amazed at how we are truly taking so much from the environment without giving back.  This is already impacting us all, especially the future for our children.  However, there is still hope if we all start within our own homes, offices, vehicles, or why not discuss and share this on Thanksgiving Day!

What a perfect family project to share with each other while also showing the children how to be energy conscious. I challenge everyone to take 15-30 minutes on Thanksgiving Day to give thanks to mother earth by doing one, or better yet all of the following:

Change every light bulb in your home with Energy Star CFL bulbs. (See what your city or state is doing?  Take the pledge at ) Purchase fresh organic foods for your Thanksgiving feast. Also look for the Fair Trade Certified labels on items. Need help with your earth friendly feast? Conserve water by not washing clothes or vehicles on Thanksgiving Day. Everyone team together to hand wash and put away all the dinner dishes instead of using the dishwasher.

Of course you can add to the list but the thought of us all giving thanks to our mother earth for nurturing and supporting us goes well beyond the reunion of immediate family and friends.  Go beyond Thanksgiving Day by taking a few moments each day to be thankful for something even if it’s being able to make it home through rush hour.  Whatever you give back in thanks will always come to you in some small or large way.

Kandi Phillips